Adopting a child is not an overnight decision. It is an event that will forever change your family. Considerations are huge when it is your first adoption, add to that another child, and there are even more things to think about. Here are four factors to keep in mind when navigating the adoption process when you have other children.
- How to prepare your kids – Apart from you and your partner being on the same page, preparing your existing children is a critical step in the process. If your kids are young, you probably don’t need their endorsement as much as with older kids. It is important not to tell them too early in the process. Adoption can be very emotional for adults and even more trying for kids. In the end, remember this is your decision as parents and not your children’s. It is good to have everyone on the same page and understand everyone’s feelings, but you must do what you believe is the best for you entire family.
- International or domestic – This can be another difficult decision, but again is yours alone. Consider the intricacies of both options and weigh all details carefully. In the end, adoption is about giving a child a home, not about race, ethnicity or any other factor.
- How to tell others – Don’t be surprised if you get a cool response from some people when you tell them about your adoption plans. If this is your second adoption, people who were supportive of your first experience might not be as encouraging. It is important to remember that you are doing what is best for your family and not someone else’s. Let other’s process it in their own time and move on with your plans. On another note, be sure that your kids hear the news before other family members.
- Work with a trusted adoption agency – The adoption process brings many questions and stressors. Working with a trusted adoption agency will give you the peace-of-mind you need to navigate the process effectively.
If you or someone you know is considering domestic adoption, contact the loving professionals at Adoption Because We Care. Our mission is to insure permanent homes with loving families for children placed in our care.